The dating scene:- The second week

Well, without doubt dating apps do work. This has been my second week on the apps, I’m registered with two dating apps, and thus far I’ve had eight responses. Four I’ve had to remove because we are totally unmatched. Of the four that remained, two are silent, and send me emojis every now and again, I guess just to let me know that they are still interested but are either taking time to think about it or talking to someone else none of which is wrong, dating is something that you do willingly, and it is not something that can be forced. It’s obvious that various factors come into play, for example looks, and the better looking you are the higher the chances that you’re going to get hits, and that’s probably one of the reasons why some of the users post fake photos though I don’t see the reasoning in posting fake photos especially if you’re going to go out on a date, unless one plans to chat endlessly on the apps and the only reason I can think of that someone might do that is to kill time. Nonetheless, no harm can really come out of mindless chatting, with the exception of leading the other person on, but even then they’d probably catch on, and realize that the person that they’re chatting to is just toying with them, at some point in time, so from that perspective no harm can really come from it. It is also fairly obvious that some of the images are AI generated, that’s quite common these days, however to take it a step further it is also possible that some of the responses are AI generated, or there could be a person or a team of people in an isolated location somewhere who are just paid to handle chats. Both possibilities are probable but highly speculative, and there is no tangible evidence to support them.

Of the two that remained, they’ve both made it to my whatsapp, or I’ve made it to their whatsapp, a promotion of sorts, and to be honest I find them to be normal people who are just looking to meet someone. However, I have to stress that just because you’ve moved up the ladder so to speak, doesn’t really mean that you’re going to click, and you may never meet in person, because the sparks are just not there and it is pointless meeting someone just for the sake of it when there is nothing to indicate that you’re going to enjoy the meeting. The point that I’m trying to get across I guess is that nothing really needs to happen, and you can just be friends and drop each other the odd message every now and again. Of the two women that are on my whatsapp, the first is at best an acquaintance. Our conversation never got anywhere, and I think that there was a general lack of interest on both sides. The last conversation ended with me saying, “let’s meet for coffee”, and her reply was “okay”, and my response to that was “but where though”. Hang on a minute, I live very close to the city and there is a Starbucks or a Coffee Bean, close to me in any direction that I looked, and the only response I could give was “but where though?” ….. and I never received a response to that. I thought about it and I guess that was an automated response to suggest that I really don’t want to meet for coffee at this stage, and fortunately the person at the other end was perceptive enough to grasp that message. In short, this is a relationship that is obviously not going anywhere.

Now, the second person, that I am connected to on whatsapp comes across as someone that I would really like to get to know. We message each other daily, and the messages are the type of messages people normally send to one another, and we are both busy with work, and we both understand that, so it’s an easy-going casual friendship that might or might not blossom into something else but at this stage at least we take a mutual interest in each other, and keep in touch on a daily basis, which at times, given a hectic schedule, is more than what anyone could ask for. All in all, I really can’t complain and my experiences so far on both the dating apps have been positive. As a user, you don’t need to give out your personal information, and you don’t need to go out and physically meet someone unless you want to. You can take all the time in the world, and there is nothing to even remotely compel you to do otherwise. Hence, in short, to sum up, my second week on both these dating apps, has been pretty good, and to some degree, I am pleasantly surprised. Let’s see how the third week goes, fingers crossed.